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CPTSD: – What type are you Fight Flight Freeze or Fawn?

In my previous articles, I described what Complex Post Traumatic Stress disorder – CPTSD is and what its symptoms are. Just to recap, is a psychological disorder that can happen when a child is exposed to repeated interpersonal trauma i.e. trauma experienced from care provider to child. A child basic biological need for safety and security. If this is compromised either because of emotional, spiritual, physical or sexual abuse, this could force a child to start behaving in a way to escape, control the situation or to try and avoid it. This is a natural response to the stress and trauma they are experiencing.

Remember, when you are looking at trauma, it is really important to put yourself in the position of a child. For example, if you were repeatedly let down and ignored as a child aged four, as an adult now you might say it is not a big deal. However, if you try to imagine what a four-year-old would be thinking and feeling at the time, a child at that age would not have the worldliness to make sense of what is happening. All they would feel or believe is that they would have done something wrong, “it’s all my fault”, they would start doing things to make themselves feel better, they might start to fight or act out, or even go as far as work out how to try and be as kind and helpful as they can to the person that let them down just to try and get their approval.

They would not do this consciously, if at any given time they tried certain things and it worked. If it got them the attention, even if it is tiny and short lived, that they craved they would repeat it until it becomes part of their habits and behaviours. This would especially happen if the trauma was repeated, the child would respond in a certain way in an attempt to get their needs met and survive.


You could respond to stress in any one of these four ways





When we experience stress or trauma, we all automatically gravitate to one of those four ways depending on the given situation. For example, if we saw a tiger in the middle of the city centre, most of us would run (in other words flight). Wouldn’t be appropriate to fight, for most of us anyway or even freeze and standstill, or even trying to Fawn by negotiating with a wild animal. We would hopefully respond accordingly.

What happens when we have experienced childhood trauma, we would respond, regardless of the situation with one, maybe two of the Fight, Flight, Freeze or Fawn types. This was a way of coping as a child, but when we carry those behaviours into adulthood, it can cause problems, as you can imagine for us.

Just to express quite strongly here that these behaviours are learned behaviours in response to your childhood environment. It is not a character flaw or a weakness. You did what you needed to do to survive. The great news is that, what was learned back then, can be unlearned and you can learn more helpful behaviours. It starts by understanding yourself a little bit more and trying to recognise what your response type is.

Also, no one response is better or worse than the other as we all need to respond in any of the given four types at some time or another. It is OK to fight back at times, it is OK to escape from difficult or annoying situations, it is OK to take part in activities that allow us to zone out and be still, and it is OK to be helpful and kind. When you are fixated on one of those it will cause you difficulties.

When we are fixated on one or two of the four types (will be referred to as 4F types), we may show the following behaviours:




Flight types believe that with control and power, they will be safe

Unconsciously driven by the belief that power and control can create safety, not feel abandoned and they will secure love.

Narcissistic (extremely self-centered with an exaggerated sense of self-importance)


Passive aggressive


Nice – Nasty

Overly demanding


Type A



Demands Perfection

Shames others




Flight types unconsciously believe that perfection will make them safe and love-able. They also try to outrun the trauma



Running away


Compulsive rituals






Adrenaline junkie



Compelled by perfectionism

Over analytical

Abuses stimulants such as caffeine, chocolate, cocaine etc



Freeze types, unconsciously disconnects to stop him or herself from experiencing pain. They could also believe, unconsciously, that people are dangerous


Running away



Couch Potato



Critical of others

Space Case


Achievement Phobic

Abuses depressants such as Alcohol, opioids, benzodiazepines


Fawn types seek safety by integrating with the wishes, needs and demands of others.





Loss of self

People Pleaser



Social perfectionism

D.V. Victim

Class clown

Over listening to others

One sided relationship

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